Wednesday, January 23, 2013

Undervalued and Overpaid Part 2

"What do you think I do while you are at school?" I asked my young children at the dinner table that night.

A prayer had set me off, punched me in the gut. But my disappointment wasn't about the prayer and it wasn't about my kids. It was about me.

Being a full-time Mom was always a choice. A sacrifice we made. But did my kids know that? Did they value that?

Staying home when my kids are at school, instead of getting a nine-to-five job is confusing to people. My husband shared recently that a co-worker frequently makes comments about the fact that I don't "work". And although I don't care whether he understands our reasons or not, I do find it disheartening and quite presumptuous.

This is not a post about why staying home with your kids is better than working full-time. I refuse to go there because I know we are all called to different things and we all make different choices. And if we are viewing success with the correct ruler, then it doesn't really matter what other moms are doing (or why) anyway.

But for me, this job suits me. And not because I love to clean my house. I am not going to win housekeeper of the year. You won't be seeing me on the next Iron Chef, either. But I do my best and try to find a good balance between the things I want to do (volunteering, writing, photography, video editing) and the things I need to do (dishes, laundry, cooking, taking care of the kids).

"Mommy is a homemaker," my husband told the kids.

"Because without Mommy, we wouldn't have home," my child piped in.

So this is where I lost it. Such sweeter words were never said. Like a soothing salve on my hurting, undervalued heart. It was then that I realized, the people who matter most, my husband and my children, do understand and appreciate what I do.

I have value because I'm their Momma.

And because of them and the infinite ways they bless and fill my life, I am indulgently overpaid —

Whatever it is I do tomorrow.


To read Part 1 of this post, click here.

6 comments:

Traci Little said...

awesome post! thank you I loved it!

Mandy said...

Aw, wonderful! Moments like this one are priceless. I'm so glad your clan appreciates how much you love them!

Christy said...

Thank you, Traci and Mandy! Your encouragement means a lot!

Monica Pruett said...

Thank you for this post - it is a blessing! It made me feel more valued too - I appreciate your encouragement!

In His Grip,
Monica
http://happyandblessedhome.com

Christy said...

Thanks, Monica! I'm glad you were encouraged by it!

Michelle McNiel said...

Christy, After seeing your comment on my post I am learning to navigate around through blogger and not just Pintrest! I wanted to say thank you for your encouragement but to also let you know this post is so accurate and does hit home. Thank you for sharing it and the precious words of a child; they are priceless for sure. What a beautiful way to express how many stay at home Moms feel. :) God bless you all!

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